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:::Our sex feels anxious, rushed, or boring...
When your sex feels anxious, rushed, or boring, you may feel alienated from each other, not to mention angry. This is a common problem that can build into major frustration and dissatisfaction if it goes unresolved for too long.
The Solution
Know you have company: First of all, relax, for you've got plenty of company. According to Dr. Schnarch, in midlife "...couples' sexual relationships often have lots of anxiety-driven rubbing and frenetic humping and bumping."
Slow down: "Slow your touch down enough so that you can sense your partner's reactions." Dr. Schnarch calls this "feeling while touching." Become more aware of what kind of touching your partner responds to and build an emotional, passionate connection with him or her by continuing this.
Touch to feel: Make "feeling while touching" your intimate motto, and let this become your guide for pleasuring each other.
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