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::.I want to make our sex and intimacy better but I don't know where to start. Help!
Do you want to improve your sex and intimacy, but don't know where to start? This can make both you and your partner feel anxious, frustrated, or alienated during sex and in everyday life, too.
The Solution
Take charge or your sex life: A good way to start enhancing your sex and intimacy is by being pro-active. "Think about why you're not doing it, and then do it!" says Dr. Schnarch.
Accept responsibility: Avoid "linking your inactivity to some shortcoming in your partner," proposes Schnarch. "Take responsibility for your own sloth, unless you want your relationship controlled by your limitations--or your partner's." The payoffs for taking responsibility can be considerable. "Once you tell your partner what you're not doing to enhance your relationship and why you're not doing it (without expecting your partner to disclose in kind), you'll be well on your way to a new solution," says Dr. Schnarch. Communication brings about positive change.
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